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Opening Words from Sun. October 13 by Donna Kniest

I am going to begin with a short true story:

Years ago we visited my brother-in-law in Virginia and for dinner my sister-in-law served fresh butter beans straight from the local farm. They were mouth watering. I had never tasted fresh butter beans before – NOW mind you, I am NOT talking about canned or frozen butter beans – only farm fresh – best picked that day.

So every year since, I have gone to Soulard market and bought butter beans which can only be found at one farm stand-Snarrs. I shell them and freeze them, and I am VERY STINGY with them -never serving them to guests so they last as long as possible.

Well, One day a couple years ago our 10 year old granddaughter was over for dinner. She is quite the little gourmet for her age, and , feeling GENEROUS, I made the butter beans – simmer 30 minutes with a pinch of salt and butter. She loved them and told me over and over how delicious they were and that she would have her Mom cook them. I explained how rare they were….

So, This year when I went to Soulard to buy them, the farmer told me the flooding had washed away the crop and there were none to be had. I WAS VERY SAD. Then a few weeks later, I got a text from my granddaughter including a photo and it said, “ Grandma, Mom and I found butter beans at Theis Farm “ – this is a farm up near UMSL right off HW 70 and Hanley Road. So, I raced to Theis Farm and bought all they had.

Now you are probably wondering why I am telling you this story: it’s because this incident brought to mind one of the major occurrences in life in which I believe – and that is —whatever you want, give it away and it will come back to you – some say ten fold. the Bible says in Galatians: “You reap what you sow.” I have seen this happen so often in my life but having only 3 minutes, I can’t tell more stories. The simplest example I can think of is when you smile at another – what happens? They smile back.

And I guess we should all be warned here not to frown, to judge or criticise or punch someone out as it can work both ways.

Yes, I believe that whatever you want, you must give it away.

So if you want to be loved, shower love on others. If you want to be included more and invited out more, invite others out for coffee or a walk, or to your home. If you want butter beans, cook butter beans for others….

Now I will be the first to agree with you that this doesn’t always happen immediately. You’ve all heard the saying “what goes around comes around?” But It doesn’t always come around fast enough, and Sometimes we think it will Never Come Around at all!!!

Think of a seed that is planted in a garden – one seed grows quickly and flourishes. Another seed is picked up by a bird and carried away. Sometimes the seed disintegrates and becomes part of the earth. But I believe that no seed ( actual or metaphorical ) is ever wasted; the good that you do today could even be met with total contempt, but that good goes out as a vibrational force into the ethers and is held in a kind of miracle escrow account. Deepak Chopra, a modern spiritual guru cleverly calls this “the great cosmic accounting system.” I am not a scientist by training, but it has occurred to me that this is like Newton’s 3rd law of physics which says “for very action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

So in the future I have vowed to be more generous in sharing my beans.

And I hope I have given you something to think about. And when Our program ends, turn to someone near you and smile.

NOTE: The ideas and opinions in this post do not necessarily express the thoughts or opinions of the Ethical Society of St. Louis or its leadership.